There’s never a consensual break up someone has to initiate it. Same goes for agreeing to hook up. One person is going to be booty call and the other the caller. In relationships, someone is always more emotionally invested than the other.
I don’t get this “friends with benefits” deal. Someone always ends up hurt. Often, one person has had a crush on the other for so long and think they’ll finally be able to express their feelings through sex. Other times feelings develop.
Same goes for the undefined sexual relationships. The “hook ups”. Often, one person has a different opinion as to what the real relationship is. When asked, you hear things like “we are just cool” and another thinks they are dating. Ergo, you find people in relationships all by themselves, broken hearted by people they did not even date.
Then there’s the ‘side piece’. Don’t serve me that ‘you can’t put your all eggs in one basket’ dish. If they all get broken, buy some more or don’t eat eggs, all that cholesterol isn’t good for you anyway!. As I often say, life is too short to be a side Ho. I know what something you can’t or shouldn’t have. I know what it’s like to think whatever crumbs are handed out are enough. However, the truth is, it’s never enough. Insatiability is inherent to humans; You’ll want more. It is the same want for more that makes one step out on their partner.
Most times , we find ourselves stuck in relationships like these. Wondering how we got here, how we became this person but it’s alright, these things happen, but you have the option to change it. Get out of these toxic relationships. It may seem hard because we have become emotionally invested in them but the only way you can let someone in, is to open the door. As the saying goes, three (3) is a crowd so let the other person out. Actually, in both sceneries, you need to open the door…. let the stale air out and the fresh in.
Let your heart break, it won’t kill you.
Antoinette Iklaki