Relationships are very complicated, but as social beings, we feel incomplete without them. Despite all our technology and social networking, forming meaningful relationships and finding someone, to connect with has never been tougher, making many of us more desperate.
Unfortunately, our cravings for deep emotional bonds, also makes us vulnerable to those who simply crave sexual gratification, so at times, the chemistry you imagine, to be there, could just be an illusion. If you keep your eyes open however, it will soon be apparent that your partner is interested in your body and not in you.
Here are warning signs that he is only into your body and not you:
POOR COMMUNICATION: Here, I’m not talking about guys who have poor communication skills, as a lot of men have trouble expressing their emotions and communicating freely. I am referring to men who communicate infrequently. they will disappear and resurface, as at when it suits them. If your man is only interested in you for sex, there is a good chance he only calls, texts, and meets you when he has raging hormones.
HE ONLY COMPLIMENTS YOUR LOOKS: While everyone wants to look their best and feel attractive, if you’re in it for the long haul, you’d obviously like your partner to appreciate you and not just your body. When men are serious about a relationship, they will be in awe or appreciative of their partners other qualities like their intelligence, generosity, kindness or sense of humor too. On the other hand, if your guy is in it for the sex, he will be more lavish in his compliments of a more sexual and physical nature.
Be aware of men who get overly physical before you’ve even had a chance to get to know each other intimately.
GIRLFRIENDS VS FRIENDS: When a guy is actually into you, he doesn’t hesitate in ditching his friends or anything into spending a time with you. It might be tough for a guy who is very active on the social side of life, but even socialites will invite you along if they cannot break their social commitments. If your guy on the other hand regularly picks a night out with friends over a quiet dinner with you, he is probably not that into you.
DATES ARE AT HOME: I definitely mean only and only at home, no where else. If a guy is really into you, he doesn’t mind being seen out in public with you, or at least be interested in spending time with you at places where you can’t have sex, like the restaurants, theatres, amusement parks, museums, galleries, and so on. A guy who is only interested in your body will not mind lavishing you with gifts, but he will never want to spend time with you, unless it is at your place when no one is around or his place when he is just home alone. In other words, he sees a window of opportunity for sex at that point in time.
HE DOESN’T CALL YOU HIS GIRLFRIEND: DTR’s and Tags can be telling, especially in relationships. If he introduces you to his friends and acquaintances as his girlfriend, it is a great sign, but if he simply introduces you by your name, carefully avoiding any mention of relationship status, you need to run. It can only mean that he is not serious about the relationship or not proud to have to have you as his girlfriend. Either way, it is time to leave him because he might just be hanging on to you till he finds a new girl.
EVERY CONVERSATION TURNS SEXUAL: No matter what is on your mind or discussing, sex always slips back into the conversation. If you open up about hoe stressed and tired you’re, he will offer you a massage and it is always sensual, but not about you. If a man is really into you, he will be sensitive and interested in your joys and sorrows and will try to learn more about you, even if he is not very skilled with the conversation.
YOU DON’T KNOW HIS FRIENDS: He won’t bring his friends where you’re around and won’t introduce you to his friends. I am not talking about fresh or newly relationships, but relationships that have taken time to grow and yet he hasn’t introduced you to his friends. He gives excuses about them and even for them. Sometimes, we are blind to some of these signs and fail to notice it till the end.
AFFECTION IS ONLY PHYSICAL: If every attempt to be emotionally close to you and it leads to sex, he is not into you. Don’t get me wrong. guys do express their love and gratitude by kissing and hugging and compliments, but when it always leads to sex, and I repeat SEX at all times, he is only interested in your body and not you.
Unless the feeling you have with him is mutual, why then are you in the relationship? Let us try and notice these early signs and try hard to avoid putting the blame on someone who probably won’t care about hurting us, else that’s what you want.