In this part of the world the norm was that a woman should remain a virgin up until her marriage but slowly things are changing. In the past most men would refuse to marry non virgins but now a lot of men couldn’t give a rats ass if they met their wives virgins or not. I decided to take it to the net to ask some couples if they had sex before or after heir marriage and how it turned out to be for them and this was what they had to say.
1. “A very good male friend of mine didn’t have se x with his current wife until after they got married (her idea), turns out that she basically hates se x and he LOVES it…they have been married 12 years bf he can count how many times they have had se x (less than 10 times).
Suffice it to say, he wouldn’t recommend waiting”
2. “My husband and I were semi-abstinent (no pen1s inside vag) for religious reasons, and didn’t live together before we got married (dated 5 years). Have now been married 2.5 years. We have a very healthy marriage and active sex life, in my opinion.
To be fair, we are more part of the Christian left and have always been sex-positive. I’m not sure if I still believe it’s essential to abstain until marriage, but it was very important to my partner, and it didn’t hurt us.”
3. “My wife and I weren’t 100% abstinent before marriage, but close. When we first started dating we fooled around some, but then she felt like waiting was the right thing to do so we didn’t do anything else until we got married.
Right when we first got married sex was alright. We did it pretty frequently, I guess. Not so much now though.
It was a mistake. Fuck abstinence. It’s the worst.”
4. “My husband and I waited. We don’t have any issues with our relationship because of it. We talked a lot about what our expectations would be and how we would approach it in our marriage. I’m glad we waited. It has been a learning curve sure, but we’ve been married for almost three years now and have a descent sex life. There’s been some short dry spells sure to health issues but we love each other very much and try to make the other person happy.”
5. “Still happily married 17 years later. I think it was very good because it forced us to spend time really getting to know each other while we were dating.”
6. “We’ve on been married less than a year as of now, but it’s going great. Of course sex was awkward at first but we had it pretty well figured out by the end of our honeymoon trip, and it’s only been getting better!
Being married is awesome, especially to such an amazing woman. I’m convinced that waiting until marriage was the correct course of action, because it allowed us to get married based on our real-world, day-to-day compatibility rather than being distracted by the bliss of intimacy. Certainly not a popular point of view, but it definitely worked for us”
7. “The most we did while dating/engaged was one heavy make out session. No groping, even. We’ve been married 5 years and have sex or he gets a bj nearly every single night, unless he’s tired or sick. I love the d, and have declined sex only once I can think of in the last several months. It worked out for us.”
8. “Probably not a typical experience, but I never had penis inside vag until the night of of my wedding with my wife (now of 8 years). Sex sucked at first, especially for her. But it’s amazing now, albeit a bit less frequent. Still getting better with time.”