1. YOU DON’T BELIEVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER IS FOR YOU: “Happily ever after” happens to someone that decides she will never give up, no matter what happens. She is someone that will take the risk and go after what she really wants. The woman who will stand up again and again after rejection, breakups and pain, and won’t settle for the status quo. The universe always rewards the persistent and determined among us. It is your life and your choice that creates the outcome. So, get out there, find the resources, seek the education, and make life happen for you. The ball is in your court; believe in love and go make it your reality.
2. YOUR BELIEF IN LOVE HAS BEEN COMPROMISED: Focusing on all the obstacles and what might happen will absolutely leave you feeling deflated and overwhelmed. All that thinking can leave you exhausted, and thinking love is impossible — going from being asked out, to the first date, from girlfriend to meeting the parents, a life tragedy to marriage. So, in order not to disappoint yourself, you might decide it would be easier to give up or not put yourself wholeheartedly into the mix.
3. YOU REFUSE TO GO AFTER WHAT YOU REALLY WANT: When you believe that love is impossible and the mountain is too high, you will fail to go after what you really want. You are afraid that you might actually be happy and that love might work out for you. Out of fear and out of playing it safe, you go out with the man who is into you. If you go out with the man who is into you, there is no risk; you are in control of the outcome.
If you go after what you want, there is risk involved — the risk of being heartbroken, left alone… or the risk of being happy. The risk is worth it. After all, the benefits far outweigh the risk of settling, so why not go all in?