Mojisola Olaiya is the daughter of highlife musician, Sir Victor Olaiya. The actress came into the limelight when she starred in Wale Adenuga’s television soap: ‘No pains, No Gains’. She spoke with Nigerian Tribune’s Adunola Oladapo on issues bordering on her life and the movie industry.
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You enjoyed so much success and fame immediately you hit the screens, what has been the secret of your success in this career?
It has been God all the way. He is the bedrock of my success. Yes, my father is famous but he is a musician, not an actor. Wale Adenuga’s No Pains, No Gains soap was my first time of doing something like that and I thank God that I did not disappoint the person that introduced me to the Super Story crew and my viewers.
I did not do anything special or discreet, I only tried to put in my best and I am glad it worked out well for me. It has just been God and hard work and this applies to anything I do. My motto is: Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well. I have been taught to always give my best to whatever I do and that is what I do at all time. Whatever role they give me, I try to give it the best shot. I just try to make it natural; I don’t take any assignment given to me with levity, I do it with all my strength and mind. This is the mindset with which I do my jobs.
Do you apply so much dedication to marriage too?
Oh yes, I do. Marriage is an institution by God and a lifetime affair, so if I dedicate so much passion to my job, how much more my marriage? I am a very good Christian and I respect the marriage institution a lot.
So, in what state is your marriage as we speak, are you still with your husband?
I want to use this medium to say categorically and officially that I am separated for life with my husband. I have never talked about this officially before because I was thinking we could amend and make it work again but I am saying emphatically here that all is forever over between me and my husband. This has been on for two years now but I thank God I have been able to pick my life back and move ahead.
Are you saying the issue is irreconcilable?
Exactly. It is finally over between us, there is no going back.
But what actually happened between you and your husband?
It’s a long story, but I guess the error I made was not taking time to study him before marrying him; I rushed into the marriage because I was in love. Now, I see and know better. But we are separated for life and for good. We only courted for a year and a half and he was always going and coming. It was more of a love across the sea affair.
For how long were you married and how many children do you have for each other?
We were together for four years and there is no child between us. He has two boys already and I have my daughter, so we didn’t have any kid.
Could that be the reason for the issues at home or could it be that he wasn’t comfortable with your job?
It had nothing to do with no kids or my job. He didn’t just understand and wasn’t ready to be a real man that will fend for his wife and home. While the marriage lasted I gave it my all, I ensured I didn’t sleep out on location just to keep my home and my job suffered a bit too but he wasn’t just there for me. While we were together, I was practically the bread winner, he was unnecessarily and unfairly suspicious and listens to rumours about my personality, I doubt if he had real love for me because you don’t doubt whom you love.
He wasn’t hardworking at all and he never appreciated my efforts in keeping the home intact financially such that he even turned brutal, there were issues of domestic abuse. It is a bad thing for a man not to be hardworking and unable to fend for his home. But it is all over now and we have not even communicated in the last two years.
Do you have plan to remarry in future?
Yes, of course but this time to a real man, a God-fearing, hardworking, loving and understanding man who will love me for who I am and love my job too. Someone who is capable of taking care of me and not vice versa. And I will take my time to study him well this time around.
Are you seeing any man now?
Yes of course, but I am not ready to disclose details of him yet.