When you’re in bed with your lover, the last thing you want to do is turn them off but there are some common blunders we commit unknowingly which turns our partner off.
Below are a few common blunders that you should not commit.
Not kissing: Believe it or not, most people don’t kiss their partner when they’re having.s3x, perhaps because most of the time positioning doesn’t allow kissing or most are too eager to climax and feel that it might break the rhythm when they kiss but, it is highly recommended that you make an effort to kiss your partner during s3x as it will only add to the fun.
Ignoring everything but sexualised parts: “Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to other parts of your lover’s body and focus for some time on their entire body – knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for men as well as women, gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back”.
Climaxing too soon/ too late: “This one is especially for men, you need to have good control on your muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time, climaxing too soon and leaving your partner unsatisfied; climaxing too late and it leaving your partner unsatisfied so avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay”.
Not warning your partner before you climax: “If you’re going to let go and this applies even to women – whether, during oral s3x or intercourse, you need to tell your partner beforehand, your partner deserves to know”.
Treating s3x like porn: Even though some couples enjoy having raunchy s3x, it will be nice to talk to your partner before engaging in raunchy s3x because it might eventually end on a sad note.
Staying quiet: Everybody wants to know when their partner is having a good time so speak up when you are enjoying yourself so you can encourage him/her. “Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, “that feels so good,” will encourage them and educate them further on your moan zones”.
Mechanical act: “It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but you’ll quickly discover that most people don’t enjoy such an act, mix it up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly, be creative and you’ll find yourself enjoying some variation too”.