“It’s tempting to jump into relationships when we meet someone we believe is wonderful but if it takes a few months to begin gauging someone’s character, and two to three years to truly know them, we are setting ourselves up for disaster if we commit too soon”.
There are a few things one have to keep in mind before one consider getting committed in a relationship because once you accept to be in a relationship, it’s not always easy to go back on your words unless you are the type that doesn’t care who you hurt.
Most people do not consider giving it a second thought before they commit in a relationship, without realising that the “thing” between them and their partner could be mere infatuation or attraction and not love.
Below are things everyone should critically think about before starting a new chapter of your love life.
Do you want a relationship?: “This is the first question you need to ask yourself. Forget about the fact if you know your partner or not, before you say a yes, you have to know if you need one or not. Are you saying yes because you are bored? if you are not even sure whether or not you want to be in a relationship, kindly reconsider your choices”.
Do you like them, or love them?: “If you like your boy/girlfriend, after a point of time the spark will disappear, when you love a person, considering they reciprocate the same passion, you will not get bored in their company, however, before you commit, be sure of your feelings towards them – are they temporary or for life and then take things ahead”.
Have you seen each other at your worst?: “I know this is going to be a difficult one, but if you can’t take them at their worst, why do you want them at their best? if you don’t like their tantrums now, one year down the line it’ll get much worse so, know all the shades of a person before you commit, likewise, make sure they too can handle you at your worst”.
How are they with friends around?: “It doesn’t matter if they’re your friends or his, if his behaviour changes around any of your friends, you really have to think this through. If his friends don’t even know about your existence, do you really think this is worth it?”
Rebound: “Before you consider getting into a relationship, serious or not, make sure it’s not a rebound, it isn’t the ideal way to divert your mind from a heartbreak, while you’re working on understanding your feelings, make sure things between you two aren’t a rebound for your partner either”.
“So keep these points in mind before you commit to anyone and save yourself from another heartbreak”.