“How many times have you found yourself lying alone in bed, sighing to yourself and wondering when you’ll be in a relationship again?”
Your conversations with your close friends most times are how and when you will meet the right guy and start dating again and even though your friends are always assuring you that with time you will find a great guy but you can’t stop wondering why you are still single when everybody is always telling you that you are great.
And after all the hours you spend on different dating apps like Tinder, Hook me up, Instagram etc with the so-called perfect dating profile and you still can’t find a guy and you are confused about what is actually holding you back from having a new relationship, below are some reasons.
You set extremely high standards: “You have a very restrictive list of qualities you want your boyfriend to have which includes that he shouldn’t be below 6 feet, should be good-looking, intelligent, rich and make you laugh all the time and iff any guy falls short of either one of these qualities, you immediately reject him, even though there’s nothing wrong in having certain expectations when it comes to dating, when you set the benchmark this high you are bound to end up single and alone”. Instead of setting unrealistic standards, work on being a better person yourself which will help you in attracting the right guy.
Still recovering from a break-up: “While most women will vehemently state that they are over their ex-boyfriend, in some cases, the truth is that they just don’t realise that they are still carrying a torch for him”. It is highly possible you haven’t gotten over your ex even if your previous relationship ended months or years ago, you might still be carrying a torch for your ex, so allow yourself vent out all the negative emotions from your previous relationship before you attempt dating again.
Constantly chasing the wrong guys: After so many tests and scrutinising you think you have finally found the “perfect guy”, “he’s gorgeous, charming and you enjoy talking to him and you can’t believe you’re getting attention from him”. But after a while, you get to know he is not looking for a serious relationship and he is simultaneously seeing other women, “if you have a track record of chasing after all the wrong guys, chances are you won’t even realise when the right one comes along”.
You’re way too desperate: “So, you have successfully recovered from your previous relationship and it has been a long time since you have been in a relationship, you’re a bit too eager to start dating again and after the first date itself, you scare him off with clinginess and elaborate plans for the future, if you reek of desperation, you can be sure that you’re not going to get a second date”. Take things easy, be patient and if it is meant to work out, it will. Subconsciously, you don’t want to be in a relationship
Subconsciously, you don’t want to be in a relationship: “You might think you really want to be in a relationship again because you miss getting those cute good morning and goodnight messages, but in reality, you don’t really want to commit”. Are you the type that takes hours to call or text back guys who are trying to take you out and you would rather stay indoor than go on a date? it shows you are not ready to date yet and rather remain single.