1. Just because your crush has broken up with the person they use to see doesn’t mean you are automatically next in the queue. Try not to celebrate too early.
2. Reality seems more sobering than it is romantic. When you begin to think about your ex in hyperbolic terms then apply some perspective instead of being swept away in some fantasy thought prison.
3. Hooking up with someone after ending your relationship isn’t much of a rebound until you make it one.
4. Breakups are not one size fits all. There is no correct way to handle a breakup maturely, being friends with your ex isn’t morally superior to cutting all ties with them. Respecting your ex and former relationship feels a little bit different for everyone.
5. One of the people in the relationship will most likely have a harder time dealing with the breakup. Sometimes that person will be you. When it’s not, try to be compassionate.
6. The duration of a relationship has no bearing on how much it will hurt when it’s over.
7. While we all know your friends newly minted ex is a gbef, maybe dont start slinging shit just yet? Allow them some time to grieve. You’ll have the rest of your lives to talk trash but for now.
8. Keeping busy and distracted is a good way to deal with a breakup, but no one has ever died from sobbing in bed for days either.
9. Waking up one day and feeling like you are totally over it doesnt mean you wont relapse in the future. It will take more than a few mornings of waking up and feeling like you are over it, it might actually take waking up without realizing theres something to ‘get over.’
10. There is a difference between dating a stranger post relationship and then dating someone your ex knows or likes or hates. What you choose to do with that infois up to you.
11. It’s kinda OK to stay in touch with your ex’s friends, just don’t be a freaking menace about it.