When men compliment women they don’t realise at times that their compliment can be very condescending, “sometimes men don’t realise that their seemingly harmless compliments are thinly-veiled insults”.
“There is a considerable internalised misogyny among women that makes them think lesser of their own gender and accept these covert insults as compliments”. As women, it is high time we call out some backhanded compliments men shower on us so generously, below are some things men should stop saying as a compliment to any self-respecting woman.
“You are not like other girls”: “This is inarguably the king of all backhanded misogynistic compliments and the broadest of brushes with which men paint women, why is being like other girls such a bad thing in the first place?”.
“You are too funny/ intelligent/ independent for a girl”: “Honestly, it is 2017, and it’s high time the ‘You are *positive adjective* for a girl’ format of compliments stops”. Women have actually started to see through these compliments and do you even mean girls cannot be funny, intelligent or independent? whew.
“You are a girl who thinks like a man”: Please how does a man think that a woman can’t that way too? stop that line please, productivity and impactive thinking do not have anything to do with gender.
“I think you should smile more often”: “Walking around with a permanent smile on the face is not pretty but downright creepy, don’t ask me to smile and I won’t ask you to drop dead either”.
“If you dressed well, you could give every girl a run for their money”: “There is an obvious condition here ‘If you dressed well/lost weight/ gained weight/ put on makeup, in short, you will be your own non-descript self, if you don’t make some significant changes to your appearance”.